Wifey Wednesday

I know your saying whew girl that's a whole lot of blogging today but I wanted to take part in this meme because its something I have addressed recently in therapy and in my private blog. The topic on to Love Honor and Vacuum is Make Up Sex is it real? 

Well I just closed the book on Captivated by You by Sylvia Day and in the 4 books I have read in this Crossfire Series the main characters Gideon and Eva.. both abused as children have gotten into this relationship with each other that is sexually charged. Perhaps they are not using sex in a healthy way but who's to say? Certainly not I. 

I have been spending time outside of therapy concerned about other people around me.. Maybe they are as broken, exhausted, cranky, needy, etc etc... as I am or can be.

So Rick and I had a disagreement and he made me feel bad.. He hurt my feelings if I put it out there for the world to see. It just sounds childish to say. He wasn't trying to have make up sex and I wasn't either but I felt the need to put in my private blog last week or whenever it happened that I don't like it. I don't know if it was from my own abuse or I just don't like it. That may be the way he handles it but it doesn't mesh well with the way I process it. I consider it a band-aid on the problem like the poster who wrote in to the blog. It just further triggers my need to fight or flight most likely flight since I already fought :( 

So this may be the topic for my next Girl Talk Tuesday :)

I am linking up here http://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/category/marriage/wifey-wednesdays/

Whiskers Wednesday.

My family has six cats.. .

My daughters cat Tinker Belle. Tink is almost 8 years old and we adopted her in 2007. She can't function without Skylar. 

My Baby is Cocoa he's about  6 years old. He showed up at the bus stop one morning really starving. I couldn't stand for such a beautiful Siamese to starve. We have had him at least 4 years.

My kitten is Peeta. He is 3 years old and he is one of my foster failures from volunteering with the cat rescue. We have had him since he was old enough to be away from his mommy and was separated from her in the pound.

Peanut is my reluctant family member. An Army wife asked me to watch her cat for a year while her husband was deployed. He's been here for the past 4-5 years. He's 5 years old.

Sydney was the other foster failure. I was fostering her before I got Peeta and we adopted her after Peeta she is 4 years old. We have had her for the past 3 years. 

Mittens is my special needs princess. She is 10 years old. We have had her for 5 years.She was adopted from a rescue in Huntsville.

 Today's story is about how big brother Cocoa takes care of us... Here is a video of Cocoa doing black ops coming home from the bus stop. He used to keep on our flank and check under every car and the drain, and door etc.. Last year neither child of mine road the bus to school but Cocoa would often walk other children to their bus stop. When we go on family walks the neighbors always comment on how crazy it is for a cat to walk with us without a leash (shh don't tell Animal Control). This morning Cocoa ran outside as we were walking William to his bus stop and as I watched William cross the street.... Cocoa followed actually Cocoa was ahead of William but ran back across the street to walk William across the street then down the side walk to the bus stop with me tailing behind. Cocoa is always big brother... One day the family was enjoying the sunshine out in our back yard and I decided to let the kittens out to play (Peeta and Sydney) Cocoa seemed to walk in circles around them keeping them close to the house. When William was little and he was crying one day while I buckled his seat belt Cocoa climbed in the car and got in-between William and to make sure he was okay. Cocoa goes for car rides sometimes. He's not particularly thrilled with the idea but he gets in the van/car willingly! The other day I was bringing the kids home from school and Cocoa sat in the middle of the road and the bus driver who arrived at the same time had to sit and wait on Cocoa to move. The next time I saw the bus driver I apologized for Cocoa's lack of common sense. He said he would never run over my beautiful cat. I always worry that either Cocoa is too friendly and someone will snatch him up (becareful to those who think about stealing him if he is inside too long he WILL spray!) or maybe they think he is a pest... Some people just don't like animals! *shocker* I know! So as independent as he is I just can't keep him inside full time. I think we have too many roosters in the hen house... I don't know. Cocoa has changed a lot during the past 4 years. Being a very spoiled indoor outdoor cat has its own problems and challenges such as someone has attacked my cat several times and each time it happens its $300 vet bill ugh.. I love my cat. Something has been biting him in the butt and it becomes abscessed. So I do worry about him. He has made good friends with my neighbor Julie. We went out of town and I asked Julie to feed him once a day because if he had to stay outside for the week I did want her checking on him. Now he thinks breakfast comes in three helpings --stinker! She says he has done the same thing to her playing chicken with her van like he does with the school bus.

We are at the school Mommy where are the kids?

I am your co-pilot forever right mommy? 

Him following William to the bus stop this morning.


and another issue we are having with Cocoa is outdoor housing!! He's so stubborn its dipped down around 20 degree's lately and he wants out.. I am like Cocoa you dont' really mean it. I let him out and within 5 minutes he's back in and then back out again. A few years ago I found two types of small dog/cat houses at the big box chain stores.

The inside is made of a thin foam like material and the outside is thin plastic.. If I remember correctly it can even be used as a carrier? But I haven't as you can see what I thought was weather beaten just may be another animal trying to find Cocoa? Maybe? Whatever has been biting him? I need to replace this ASAP but on a low budget. We've tried the coolers and the totes but I really don't want them on my stoop you know what I mean and Cocoa didn't really go in them when I had a cat I was trying to rescue before is the reason why I made one. I also bought a dog house (like a real one for a German shepherd) Cocoa has no interest in that either! 

I just can't find a small cat house that is weather proof or semi weather proof to go on my porch.. I guess I need to find a wood worker to make me one *sigh*

I would really like to find the plastic shell I used before one more time so if you have any leads on cat houses for outdoors let me know! 

no Lowes does not carry this!! Crazy! 

Wordless Wednesday

I haven't been taking pictures as much so I don't have much to share but maybe this Wordless Wednesday should be wordy Wednesday. We have made it a habit to go to the library nearly once (or more) a week. Sometimes TWO libraries. We live near our military post so we sometimes go there to change things up a bit. William my 5 year old even does reading therapy with a dog named Taka. 

This is a picture of William in the children's garden at the Madison City Library. 

Wifey Wednesday

I have an Army Wife friend of mine I met when we were stationed here at Redstone together. I am not going to call her out by name because I am not sure she would be comfortable with that. Plus it might be a violation of girl code lol.  ;D I see with what view I have the relationship she has with her Soldier, Her Hero, Her husband. I think they have been together a long time and she knows her job is to be a good wife (help meet) and mother. I was intrigued and read her blog quite a bit. A good help meet, house wife, working mother.. .whatever plan God has for me I think that is what I should strive to be. Also in church Pastor Mark talks a lot about being submissive (not in a bad way) to our husbands. I have to wonder perhaps though. Without striking the word of God but what if that isn't our position in our family life. What if our husband doesn't function at 100% Maybe he functions better when we are 50/50? Then what then? My husband has ADD, Short Term Memory Loss, and PTSD from his time in Iraq so certain things I am expected to step up and just do. So I wonder is THAT how I am a good Help Meet? Some people say I should just step back and let him take control and if I have faith in him he will be able to juggle it all. I am not sure that is what God is asking. I could never see myself being June Clever or a Stepford Wife. But I would like to be better than I am I just feel like under my current circumstances I am stretched pretty thin. I know I can gain strength from that and eventually not feel so stretched with faith and prayer. 

I am just exploring these thoughts and wanting to know more about what it says in God's word and what would work best? Am I doing this wife thing all wrong?

Wednesday Blog Prompts

I bet more people would write if they had a prompt. I perhaps rely too heavily on meme's but sometimes its a necessary evil .


Here are some blog prompts for Wednesday
You don't have to do them all pick which ones inspire you to write... pass them all up if you don't feel inspired. They are here to help pull down that writers block. I know it helps me.

Option 1 Prompt Me Project

 I am doing this one as part of a project on http://www.papercoterie.com

Ready to embark on your new adventure? When you're finished, you'll have a beautiful record of random days, what they meant to you, and what you want to remember.

Step 1: Create a 'Today' folder on your desktop. When you take or find a photo you want to include in your book (for us its a blog), name it and drop it into the folder. When you get a prompt to upload, you'll already have the photo handy.

So whether it's a long nap, a long day, or a long overdue surprise, get ready to document today. . .

1: Upload your Picture
2: Describe your day...

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Option 2:
Sometimes structure is the best way to maintain a writing routine and to get writing done. But sometimes it helps to deviate from that rigid structure and try multiple ways of writing. In the spirit of trying new ways of writing, I’ve included a wide variety of prompts for different genres in today’s posts. I found these posts are various online sources that I’d encourage you check out. Some of them are for fiction, some are for non-fiction. Some are geared toward flash fiction, some are more suited for a longer story. What you do with these prompts is entirely up to you. You can stick to the genre or form that you’re most comfortable with or you can step outside your comfort zone and try writing something new. Check out these prompts:


http://peakvsdaphie.blogspot.com
Write a story in seven words.
What’s on your mind right now?
Describe a favorite TV show of yours.
What’s the best thing that happened this week?
Write a 250-word sketch about a sore loser.
Include these elements in a story: a goatee, a cell phone, headlights.
First sentence: Gertie cradled Herbert’s hand in hers and stared the the age spots on the back of her hand.
I hope these prompts have inspired you to write something you wouldn’t normally write. Or, if you preferred, that it helped you write something interesting and fun. Above all, I hope that you took some time out of your busy day just to write. It is only by writing that we can improve our craft, after all. Have fun!

Some ideas for topics
...When do you put up your Christmas decorations?
....What the hardest thing for you to write about?
....You find yourself sitting at your desk, watching the cursor on your computer blink over and over again. With each blink, your eyes become more heavy and soon you fall asleep. Moments later, you awake to find yourself not sitting at your desk, but in a strange land. Describe where you are, who you meet, and how you try to get home (if you even want to, that is..)
.....What is your dream job? (And what's keeping you from living that dream?)
.... Is there something you swore you'd never do, but ended up doing it anyway?

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Option 3:

Meme's
What is a Meme?
http://thedailymeme.com/what-is-a-meme/

[b]Blog Meme's for Wednesday[/b]

Wordless Wednesday Post a picture without words... no words needed
http://www.wordlesswednesday.com/newhome/

Wifey Wednesdays
http://tolovehonorandvacuum.com/category/marriage/wifey-wednesdays/

Word Filled Wednesday
The purpose of Word filled Wednesday is to share God’s word through photo’s & a verse!
download it,
read it,
print it,
share with others!
http://the160acrewoods.com/?s=word+filled+wednesday

Works for Me Wednesday
http://wearethatfamily.com/

Special Exposure Wednesday
http://www.5minutesforspecialneeds.com/9/welcome-special-exposure-wednesday/

Whiskers on Wednesday
http://whiskersonwednesday.wordpress.com/

What's Cooking on Wednesday
http://shanrev.blogspot.com/search/label/What%27s%20Cooking%20Wednesday

Weight Watcher Wednesday (Kay would probably like this one)
http://weightwatcherwednesday.blogspot.com/

Wednesday Hump Day Humor
http://mercedesrocks.wordpress.com/category/hump-day-humor/

Penny Pinching Wednesdays
http://www.thethriftyhome.com/

Sugar & Spice
http://733blog.blogspot.com/

Whatever Goes Wednesday
http://www.somedaycrafts.blogspot.com/

With Love Wednesdays

Worry Free Wednesday
http://armyknightslady.blogspot.com/search?q=worry+free+wednesday

and other random meme's listed here
http://www.3garnets2sapphires.com/2008/08/blog-meme-listing-miscellaneous-memes.html




These are resources I've pulled from all other blogs and the internet.

Wordless Wednesday

Worry Free Wednesday

1. I will try not to worry that my car is on her last legs after she locked up on me today and the air bag light probably means my air bag is malfunctioning some how.. ugh
2. I will try not to worry about how tight money has been this summer we will get back on track soon.
3. I will try not to worry about the second grade the eleventh is a lot scarier
4. I will try not to worry that William is delayed or growing... or not.
5. I will try to live in a moment, plan for tomorrow, and know that the past is what it is.
6. I will try not to worry about people who are no longer in my life... giving it to God
7.http://www.lifecoachingforchristianwomen.com/tag/worry-free-wednesdays/

Worry Free Wednesday

Worry-Free Wednesday is where I list (you can do this literally or mentally) everything I worry about & I turn it over to God. I don't worry about it any more. Because worrying is the opposite of having faith & we are instructed to have faith.

1. I will try to no longer worry about my marriage I will ask God to guide us to make the right decisions so we can have a loving marriage.
2. I will try to no longer worry about William being sick.
3. I will try to no longer worry about Rick remembering to do what I ask, I will try to do the things I can myself.
4. I will no longer worry about finding a sitter. I pray God will put my children in the right hands after Erica goes to Germany.
5. I will try to not worry about back to school shopping because Skylar really has almost everything she needs.
6. I will try not to worry about William having Aspergers because his speech isn't delayed as much as I thought.
7. I will try not to worry about my family because they are being taken care of.
8. I will try not to worry about my future because its in his hands and I can't control everything.
9.  I will try not to worry about the paths my children take because I provided them with faith and a sound conscience of reason.
10. I will try not to worry daily about my Mother, Sisters, Nieces, and Nephews because I lift them up in prayer.
11. I will try not to worry daily about my friend and family in the service they've been trained to do what they are doing. I put them in God's hands.

 

Wordless Wednesday

I've been too lazy to do uploads daily from my camera OR charge the batteries oh and that goes for the TWO camera's I use lol

Wordless Wednesday

Worry Free Wednesday

Worry-Free Wednesday is where I list (you can do this literally or mentally) everything I worry about & I turn it over to God. I don't worry about it any more. Because worrying is the opposite of having faith & we are instructed to have faith. linked from http://sandmountaingirl.blogspot.com/

1. I will try not to worry about money and paying bills because. God will provide and has.
2. I will try not to worry about my family because they are being taken care of by HIM.
3. I will try not to worry about my future because its in his hands and I can't control everything.
4. I will try not to worry about the paths my children take because I provided them with faith and a sound conscience of reason.

5. I will try not to worry about what other people think of me (see earlier blog) because I am loved and I don't need them haha.